soft
April 9th, 2024
It's always curious to me when older people say that kids these days are soft.
Isn't that the point of modern society?
Isn't that the reason we evolve as a species?
To let our children be softer, to encourage them to be kinder, to let them be a little gentler than the generations before them?
If I had a dollar from every screwed up adult who told me how screwed up their childhood was but look at them, they turned out fine, I would use all those dollars to buy them therapy.
None of us are fine but fine is a spectrum.
Instead of incessant judgement, I wish the grown ups would help. Instead of pretending to know everything, I wish the grown ups would tell the truth. Instead of insisting that this is the way things are, I wish the grown ups would open a path to how things could be.
Being a good grown up is planting seeds for trees whose shade you will never sit under.
I never had a mentor and it bums me out every day. I think about it a lot and I long for it. It's why I try to mentor anybody any time the opportunity rises, and it's why I feel like a fraud when I mentor, because I never learned how to mentor from a mentor.
So I try to be what I think a grown up should be.
But I screw it up and I'm softer than the grown ups say I should be.